I learned something about myself last night. Something I never would’ve admitted unless it hadn’t smacked me in the face. When it comes to my job, I’ve begun to lose sight of what really matters. Let me explain…
Before I started my journey into entrepreneurship, I was constantly preoccupied with thoughts of what it would be like to work for myself. To make my own schedule. To tangibly see the fruits of my labor. I’d waste my time daydreaming about it and then come home from work miserable and unable to “be there” mentally and emotionally for my family.
But once I started pursuing my passion, I felt alive again. I was happier. I was “present” with my family at home. I was not struggling to find meaning and purpose anymore. But unfortunately even good things can sometimes get out of hand. I realized that too often I am guilty of replacing my wife and children with the cruel mistress called “work.” In our society, we label it with acceptable terms like “He’s a real go-getter” or “tireless work ethic” but in reality there is a more suitable term: it’s called being a “Workaholic.” It’s dangerous and destructive and all of us need to guard against it.
I realized that I have started to become something that I never wanted to be, a self-centered jerk. In some ways, I am grateful to realize this now and not 10 years from now. Why do I get so preoccupied with what I’m involved and fail to make the time to be attentive in other areas that are more important?
I need to make some serious changes in how I prioritize my time, attention, and my emotions. I doubt I would ever look back on my life and wish I had applied myself more to improving my business, but I know for certain that I will regret any lost time with those who truly matter: my family.
In the words of the King of Pop:
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways…If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.” – Michael Jackson